Is The Child More Disobedient To The Mother Or The Father?

Have you ever had the feeling that your child behaves better when he is with his father ? Do you think he’s more disobedient when he’s with you? For this is neither a strange nor an unfounded opinion. We have proven that this can often be true.

Furthermore, before continuing, it is important to point out that it is not only normal for the child to behave better when he is with his father. Also when you are with friends, grandparents or other family members your behavior is more positive than with your mother. Is there a scientific basis for this?

A study confirms that the child is more disobedient to his mother

According to the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington, responsible for this study in question, a child can get to behave worse by up to 800% when his dear mom is present. What is this due to?

Researchers studied a total of 500 families. During their fieldwork they measured the times each child asked for help, cried or screamed. They also established the number of occasions when he tried to attack, refused to walk, talked non-stop or behaved uncontrollably

The conclusions, according to Dr. KP Loibowitz, who heads the study, are unique. For example, an 8-month-old child may be very happy playing until his mother enters the room. At this point, he begins to cry, to release his anger and immediately seek attention.

The most curious thing about this is that this situation happened in 99.9% of the cases studied. In 0.1% where this did not happen, it was motivated by children with minor vision or hearing difficulties. However, upon noticing the mother’s presence, they began throwing things or asking for food, despite being perfectly fed.

Furthermore,  adults who interacted with children, except the mother, did not need much effort for the child to attend to them. They were much more obedient whenever they talked to them in a normal tone. Something that didn’t happen to her mother. Even talking in the same tone of voice, he didn’t get the same attention. So, you should raise your voice a lot to get a similar result.

The result establishes the odor as a critical point

According to the study by Dr Leibowitz and his collaborators, the odor of mothers is what makes a child more mischievous. This behavior happens because the child, when smelling the maternal pheromones, modifies his behavior. Hence the search for a type of aerosol capable of modifying this situation.

Nevertheless, it sounds quite strange, even though it seems strange to us to think that a child’s sense of smell interferes in deciding his behavior. However, the study did not establish the reason why the mother’s pheromones act this way in each child.

Give them care and attention

Anyway, and until that “fantastic aerosol” appears that will solve everything, we have to conform with the tools we have. But luckily they are many and very effective. So pay attention to what’s next.

For every child who is disobedient to his mother, we find a positive child with a great emotional upbringing. We have to get our children to learn as they are able to control their feelings, show empathy, and be more resilient.

Give them affection, proper attention and sensible training according to their stage of personal development. Otherwise, there will be no aerosol that improves the effects on the child. I mean, there are no miracles in raising a child.

Maybe studies can give us data on pheromones and other things, but a child needs nurturing. Always remember affection, safety, habits, routines … This is the really important part for your child and the one that we should be concerned about.

If your child is naughty, that’s okay, it’s normal. All children play mischief and diminish them as they grow up and see the importance of their attitudes. The important thing is that you are there to guide them and give them the necessary tools that will teach them important life lessons in each of their experiences.

While we wait for a miraculous aerosol to appear, we are resigning ourselves to making our mischievous children happy or not. Give affection and common sense, the rest will come alone.