How To Help Children Feel Safe

Insecurity in children can negatively affect their development. In fact, it  is necessary to help them feel secure and confident in themselves so that they can develop the protection they need for life.

In other words, both self-esteem and security allow a human being to feel at ease with himself and, in turn, gain the approval of his most demanding judge: himself.

All children need time and space to discover themselves. However,  we can always help them so that each day they feel more comfortable with themselves and thus enhance their self-love in a healthy way.

A self-assured child is one who allows himself to experiment with people and objects around him freely and with a perfect self-awareness; that is, she will not feel threatened, ill-suited, or present any other perception with a negative connotation.

Although it may seem contradictory, those children brought up in the precepts of creation with attachment turn out to be very independent children. This is due to the fact that  both the education and the dedication they receive from their parents provide them with the necessary support to make decisions for themselves.

In order for a child to feel secure about himself, he must first feel secure around him. In this regard, it  is extremely important that parents know how to convey security to their children, demonstrate to them or make them know the following:

1. That they are loved, because they were wanted even before their conception.
2. That they can trust their parents and vice versa.
3. That they are respected and that they won’t be asked by their parents to always do things the way they want.
4. That they are listened to and that their opinion is also valid.
5. That there are solid ties within the family nucleus.

How to help children feel safe

Educate with freedom

As the child grows, the normal thing is to become independent little by little.  It is the parents’ task to help them discover the world and experience it in a balanced way. This means warning about the risks that each of your actions have and warning about some dangers. But without depriving them of having fun and playing freely. All of this will help children feel safe.

The games help children a lot to discover the world and structure it. Let her play and carry out activities that help her achieve goals. Striving to achieve your goals will help you to be  aware  that you can achieve what is proposed. This is very important to nurture their self-esteem, which is a fundamental thing to help children feel secure.

Motivate to do things for themselves

If you want to help your child grow up confident, you  should avoid educating your child so that he or she is always dependent on you. The first thing you should talk to him about is independence and the many benefits of trying to do things yourself.

Of course, as the child is a being in the making, it will sometimes be easy for him to perform certain activities. But sometimes not. So it is possible that she will ask for your help in doing some of these activities that she has more difficulty with.

teach how to work in a team

There’s nothing wrong if you help. The issue is to ensure that  the interference of the father or mother guides the child to achieve the goal  that has been proposed. You should try to help, but you shouldn’t do things for her. Otherwise you will be limiting your learning.

Work as a team with the child,  help share the merits of a task.  And celebrate your progress, not the results. That way, if you fail at a task, you’ll learn that you must try even harder next time. This reflection and your timely interventions will make your child feel confident that there is always a chance to get better.

Learn to delegate, let go, let go

Sometimes many parents forget that even though their children were born to them, they are not an extension of them. In general, this selfishness that we all carry within us and our own personal needs cause, unconsciously, sometimes to educate children in emotional dependence.

Remember that you brought him into the world, now life is his. As your child grows, he must decide more and more on his own, for him to discover and grow. If you are tempted to give advice, do it in a timely and liberating way. This will help children feel safe.

Be tactful: make constructive criticism

Sometimes without malicious intent, many parents console their children by saying things like, “Come here, poor thing,” or some other phrase like that. The educator Elena Roger Gamir advises to  eliminate from your vocabulary lines such as: poor thing. It is a child who is in training, not a poor thing, he explains.

This advice applies to other comments that incite the child to self-pity. That’s where the importance of choosing your comments comes from. And this can only be achieved if you learn to control your emotions.

Stay away from negative messages and reinforce positive ones.  Also, if your child has not done the right things, you should look for a correct and constructive way to say it. Ideally, parents should encourage the development of healthy self-esteem in their children. This is the key to helping children feel secure and confident about themselves.