Creation Styles Over Time
Today’s parents seem daunted by the task of raising their children. Creation styles have evolved. In the 60s and 70s, authoritarian parenting was widely used. The next generation decided on the opposite: permissive parenting.
Currently, some parents don’t even know how to act with their own children. Fathers who apply democratic parenting are few and often do so without knowing it. There are many studies that try to relate these different styles of parenting. However, in practice it is difficult to apply a rigorous method that allows children to develop properly.
It is important that, as parents, you identify the type of parenting that best fits your family. In this article we are going to cover some options.
authoritarian parenthood
If you are an authoritarian parent, your main characteristic is to command obedience and respect. In this first parenting style, the relationship you establish with your child, affection, reciprocity and balance are not present. Therefore, you must know that your child’s development is being hampered.
Taking this type of parenting to an extreme compromises the later relationships your child will establish with other people. Parents who exercise authoritarian parenthood are characterized by:
- be a demanding person
- be little tolerant
- be unsympathetic
- Apply physical punishment constantly
- Apply emotional punishment and reprimand
The result of this type of parenthood is a conforming child with a submissive personality. The emotional environment created and characterized by violence reduces the exchange of affection and is not conducive to the development of your child’s self-esteem.
Furthermore, the autonomy that is necessary for decision-making does not always have room to develop. Your child will develop a physical and emotional dependency on their parents. This is definitely not the type of parenting we recommend.
permissive parenthood
If the style you use is permissive parenting, you are tolerant and affectionate. The characteristics of this second style of creation are:
- Does not use any type of punishment
- Avoid being authoritarian
- The imposition of rules and restrictions is minimal
- Does not set limits
- It allows children to have inappropriate behaviors that cause problems.
It is important that you take into account the fact that children who are raised from the point of view of excessive permissive parenting do not develop mature behavior. They are not polite and have trouble adapting to the rules.
Keep in mind that if you always allow your child to regulate his own behavior and if you don’t set rules, you will never be able to shape or direct his behavior. He will grow up imagining that there are no rules in society, just like in his home. Nor will you understand that there are consequences when we behave wrongly.
Seeking balance with democratic parenthood
There are data to suggest that education in a tension-free family environment with individuals who exercise democratic parenting can educate more relaxed people. Those who grow up under this third style of rearing are more capable of dealing with problems in an optimistic way, in order to be able to survive socially.
Democratic parents are characterized by being quite tolerant and, at the same time, demanding about the education of their children. That is, there is a balance between authoritarian parenting and permissive parenting.
In this modality, children must respond to their parents’ demands. But they also accept the responsibility to respect their children’s views and ideas as much as possible.
Both mother and father come to a common agreement to impose discipline inductively. Communication with children is always clear and open, based on mutual respect. If you are that kind of father and mother, we guarantee that your child will grow up with a correct level of social maturity, independent behavior and a high level of psychological and behavioral competence.
Review the creation styles and choose yours
Perfect parents and children only exist in movies. They don’t exist in real life. Extremes are never good and don’t help at all. Some fathers manage to achieve the balance proposed in democratic parenting, others do not even consider it an option. Review the creation styles that exist.
Just remember that the behavior of adults has a direct influence on how children are. Boundaries and permissiveness are necessary in children’s lives. But it is essential to know how to impose these characteristics with balance during creation.
